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Memorial: Anita Rowland

At 4:40 PM Monday, December 10, 2007, my wife, Anita Marie Rowland, passed away in Seattle at the age of 51 after a long battle with cancer. She is survived by her two sisters, Martha and Betsy Rowland, and by myself.

Anita will be missed by all. By her sisters. By myself. By the children and grandchildren she took as her own. And by everyone that knew her...

Some people shine so brightly they light the way for others; Anita was such a person. Having that light snuffed out so soon is a loss to the world.

Anita, we love you. We will miss you forever.

If you knew Anita or she touched your life in some way -- something that applies to many, many people -- please leave a comment with some memory of her here.

-- Edited to add:

Many people have asked me about a memorial fund for Anita. In all our discussions about what happens next (yes, Anita and I had them) we managed to miss talking about what charity she would like to have people donate to in her name.

There is a medical fund managed by our friend jkling called anitar_medfund. It's purpose is to help us pay off our (enormous) medical bills. But that isn't quite the same thing. You are welcome to donate there, just follow the link and click the PayPal button.

But what charities would Anita want you to support? The list is as endless and varied as her many interests. Given the circumstances, I suggest Gilda's Club as a place to make a small donation in Anita's name. Or you can follow Anita's lead and go personally to feed the hungry in whatever place you live.


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Dec. 12th, 2007 03:18 am (UTC)
Jack, my thoughts and sympathies to you and Riley and all who mourn Anita. She was a lovely, loving woman.

No matter how bad things were for her, she always found the joy in life. I can't recall her ever saying anything in anger or bitterness, about her circumstance or about anything else.
Dec. 12th, 2007 03:20 am (UTC)
Jack, I know your hurt well, having lost my dear Karen almost five months ago...
I only knew Anita through her journal, and only corresponded with her once, I think, but she struck me as a generous, giving person.
Good healing vibes going out to you, Jack.

Dec. 12th, 2007 04:01 am (UTC)
Jack, I am so sorry. I wish there was something I could do for you. It is thoroughly unfair that Anita is no longer with us.

I met Anita in the online journal world in the mid-nineties - she was kind, intelligent, curious and so outgoing. She stayed with me several times when she was traveling to dance, and was always incredibly gracious about our accomodations (as well as amused by being pulled over by the cops when she couldn't remember which house was ours). Such a wonderful guest.

She continued to extend her kindness to me when I went to my one and only con, Potlatch, some time ago (in Eugene), introducing me to people, hanging out with me.

I fear that the last time I saw her -- and you, Jack -- was when we went out to dinner at an Orycon and you ordered a thai dish at heat level 20 (out of a range of 20), and then dutifully ate it. But we kept in touch via blog comments and twitter. I was telling my boss about Anita's Santa Rampage experiences at about 3:50pm on Monday.

I am so glad you guys were able to do the Europe and Japan trips, and I loved hearing about them and seeing the pictures. Jack, I am so sorry, you don't even know. Please take care.

Vicki Jean in Portland
Dec. 12th, 2007 04:21 am (UTC)
My condolences to you and your family.

About a million years ago I emailed with Anita about something that escapes me at the moment. I remember her being so nice and helpful to a new-ish 'net user. She will be sorely missed.

Dec. 12th, 2007 04:49 am (UTC)
Mike and I have only met you two briefly, but our thoughts go with you at this sad time.
Dec. 12th, 2007 05:41 am (UTC)

I am so sorry. I last saw Anita 3 years ago, but I will miss her. She was a wonderful person.
Dec. 12th, 2007 06:21 am (UTC)
The tubes of the internet are a bit emptier tonight.

I'm another of the NWR/webgrrls/digital eve tribe who will miss her voice. It seems somehow apt that the last message I see from her is 'stuff that made her laugh.'
Dec. 12th, 2007 06:36 am (UTC)
I discovered Anita's LOL back when I was thinking of moving to Seattle in 2002...and have read her ever since. She will be missed, no doubt.
Dec. 12th, 2007 06:50 am (UTC)
I just found out about Anita's passing from TDavid. I'm sorry to hear that and my thoughts are prayers are with you and your family. I'm glad I'm able to say that I was able to meet Anita over the years on the rare occasions I was able to attend the Blogger Meetups. She was always very kind to me and that's what I'll remember.
Dec. 12th, 2007 06:56 am (UTC)

Janet and I are very sorry. We always looked forward to seeing Anita at Potlatch and Wiscon, and we're going to miss her.

Dec. 12th, 2007 06:58 am (UTC)
Anita was the first person I met when I moved to Washington. She will be missed. Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you or for Riley.

Ryan and I are both very, very sorry.

Take care,

Dec. 12th, 2007 07:19 am (UTC)
When I think of Anita, I think of her bustling around, doing something, making sure everyone was comfortable. Sick or well, tired or energetic, scared or confident, she was always about other people first and herself second.

Jack, I also think of how she smiled when she spoke of you, how much you meant to her.

She will be missed.
Dec. 12th, 2007 07:41 am (UTC)
Oddly, I still have a promissory note she issued about ten years ago (under the name "A. Nitre Roulade") entitling the bearer to a minute of her attention.

I'm sorry for your loss.
Dec. 12th, 2007 07:48 am (UTC)
Anita's Impact
In some ways, Anita was responsible (okay, extremely influential) in the direction I've taken my life. I stumbled onto her blog years ago and learned immensely from it. She cyber-introduced me to people who are now my mentors and with whom I have the opportunity to work. Her kindness and curiosity were contagious, and I will certainly miss her.

I'm sorry for this great loss to so many people. Anita's spirit will surely live on in all of us.
Dec. 12th, 2007 08:46 am (UTC)
I met Anita many years ago through her involvement with the Seattle Cacophony Society, and I remember her as being warm and welcoming to someone who showed up to an event without any real idea what was going to happen. She was that welcoming to many people and her presence will be missed.

Condolences on your loss,

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